Do you feel stuck? In these situations, it’s easy to blame externalities: Do you know what’s hard? Sitting quiet with your thoughts and admitting you’re the one who created the situation…and you’re the only one who can lead yourself out of it. Absolute accountability is painful. It’s the only way to a better place. Accountability is … Read more
“If you’re going to do nothing, do it on purpose.” My friend, Allen Meacham, shared this idea with me. It was so meaningful I included this idea in my book, SPARK. In our busy lives, it’s hard to imagine that doing nothing can have its benefits. For my ultra-busy coaching clients, I know the idea of … Read more
My friend Shannon and I grabbed a glass of wine recently at a local vineyard. We don’t do this enough. She’s a former CIA Officer; her life’s story is an inspirational tale of resiliency, self-compassion, and personal growth. (She was my first Bet on You Podcast guest, by the way. Listen in by clicking here.) I love talking with … Read more
Stop what you’re doing. I want you to take a good, hard look at yourself: – Where are you? – What are you doing? – What’s your current mood? – How does your body feel? – What’s your outlook on life? How’d you do with your inventory? Feeling good … … Read more
Building confidence is a never-ending pursuit. In SPARK, my co-authors and I highlighted four key strategies to building unshakeable confidence, which included this concept of “developing positive self-appraisals.” In other words, self-talk. The words we tell ourselves have a significant influence over how we perform in the experience we’re about to enter. If we say, … Read more
When anyone thanks me for their service, I’ve got to admit that I get a little uncomfortable. After all, I served during peacetime. I was in my early 20’s, stationed primarily in Hawaii, and drove a Jeep Wrangler – I was living my best life. I actually should be thanking you, tax payers, for my … Read more
I’m not too proud to admit that I’ve been jealous before. The earliest memory I have is when I went to summer camp in elementary school with a friend, Mindy. Mindy was the life of the party – all the camp counselors gave her attention. Fellow campers wanted to sit next to her during campfires. … Read more
My family and I approach conflict from different starting points. They’re completely comfortable engaging in a disagreement, and do so freely…and, to be honest, sometimes unnecessarily. ☺ I’m completely comfortable sweeping things under the rug…until two years later, which is when I lift up the rug and show the offending party the unresolved issue that’s … Read more
In our binary win/lose world, how can you create a win-win? My oldest son, Judge, and I were talking the other day about how everything in our society feels so divisive – sports competitions inevitably produce winners and losers, the election where you’re either blue or red, pro or anti-TikTok, and so on. We discussed … Read more
“Necklaces” “T-Shirts for Big Bellies!” “Cocaine!” My family and I heard these callouts recently when we strolled through an open-air market during vacation. At first, we were surprised and slightly offended by all the product offers. But after a few days, we kind of got used to the noise and let it fade into the … Read more
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